My ever-thoughtful mother forwarded me an electronic prayer letter from Mark Earley of Prison Fellowship. As my wife and I prepare for the arrival of our first child in December, it was a particularly pertinent read.
Dear Friends,
"Remember the days of old; consider the generations long past. Ask your father and he will tell you, your elders, and they will explain to you." Deuteronomy 32:7 (NIV)
A message to you who are Fathers:
In the plan of God, it is fathers who explain to their children who God is and how He has loved them and been faithful to them. One generation passes along to another the love of God and the Gospel in words and in deeds.
Every child asks two questions: “Who is God?” and “Who am I?” God’s plan is that fathers should be on the frontlines in answering those two questions. They are to answer it with their lives and with their lips. They are to put flesh and works on God’s love for their children every moment of every day.
What happens then when fathers become a vanishing breed? Simply put, chaos erupts in homes, communities, and nations. In our nation’s capital the percentage of out-of-wedlock births now stands at nearly 40 percent.[1] Nationwide, it is estimated that 34.5 percent of children are being raised without a father present in their lives.[2]
In the Church, how many fathers intentionally pass on to their children the legacy that is theirs in Christ? Too few. Fathers wait for the church, the parachurch, the school, or someone else to do it for them. This is an abdication of their God-given responsibilities. We are failing our children. In the latest research done by George Barna, 60 percent of twenty-somethings who were involved in church as teenagers no longer practice their faith (attend church, read the Bible, or pray).[3]
The best evidence of the chaos being created in our nation by the lack of fathers or poor fathering is found in the prisons. More than 60 percent of prisoners grew up in households without a father.[4] Some 70 percent of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes.[5] Although I do not know the statistics, far too many of the women I meet in prisons were victims of abuse at the hands of their fathers. It breaks my heart when I go into prisons, because the lack of fathers or poor fathering is right under the surface of all the dysfunction that is taking place.
Fathers who were intended to lead their children to an awe-filled awareness of God and the love He has for them are instead driving their children straight to the gates of hell and dropping them off.
In our ministry, we teach men how to be fathers again. We help them reconnect and reconcile with their children. In short, we help them live as men were meant to live: bringing life-giving hope and truth to their children throughout their lives. We love their children when they cannot love them and we do it in the name of their heavenly Father and the name of their imprisoned father.
As go fathers, so go families, so goes a nation. There is no way to recover healthy fathers in our nation apart from Jesus bringing new life through the Gospel.
Prison Fellowship’s Angel Tree program is in full swing as we count down to Christmas. Angel Tree connects parents in prison with their children. The vast majority are fathers. This is not just a gift-giving exercise; it is a life-giving exercise. The Gospel is demonstrated, proclaimed, and made real.
Pray for the Church, that we may repent and embrace the role of fathers and family in God’s kingdom.
Pray for the fathers in prison to whom we minister, that they may love God, love their families, and love their children.
Pray for the children of prisoners, that their fathers may be restored to them.
If you are a father, ask God to show you how you can be more like your heavenly Father.
As Christmas approaches we are all reminded of how our Father in heaven has loved us. Let us all recommit ourselves to loving the sons and daughters He has given us in the same sacrificial way He loved us.
Thank you for praying for us at Prison Fellowship. Please don’t stop.
In His grace,
Mark L. Earley
1 Corinthians 1:9
P.S. I am not unmindful of the indispensable importance of mothers in the plan of God. Next month we will talk and pray about that together!

